Your own worst enemy…
Your little demon…
Fear blocking your action…
These are all phrases to describe a common problem in healthy living, work, and relationships.
It’s called self-sabotage, the tendency to undermine yourself by taking action that prevents you
from getting what you want.
I like the first way of putting it, because I’ve felt like my own worst enemy in the past. It seemed
like I’d start progressing on achieving something important to me, and then I’d stumble in a
familiar way.
You’ve probably done it, too, and that’s OK. Most people have. Let’s say you’re within touching
distance of your goal weight, right before your sister’s wedding that you’ve used as a target
date, and then… you spend the weekend on the couch with your old pals Ben and Jerry.
Here are some simple tips I’ve used to recognize what’s happening and take action to stop it.
- Recognize what you’re doing. You know yourself better than anyone, so bake the
potential for self-sabotage into any plan. Some common symptoms of it are a refusal to
ask for help, controlling behavior, negative self-talk, and a reluctance to speak up for
yourself. - Identify the fear that manifests in the action that blocks you. You might have a deep-
seated fear that you’ll always be second in your parents’ eyes, so why bother looking your
best for a family event? Whatever the fear is, once you name it, you can deal with it.
- Write it out – the plan, the potential for self-sabotage, the whole thing.
- Tell a friend, coach or mentor about the plan, the potential for self-sabotage and the fear.
This person can hold you accountable – not only toward achieving the desired outcome,
but also to helping you overcome that self-limiting fear. - Follow the plan. Do what you need to do. And when that little demon speaks up – as it
might – be prepared to ignore it. You don’t have to convince it to be quiet. Just don’t feed
it with any attention or energy.
The key is to expect the tricks that little guy’s going to try on you and to have a plan to thwart
him at every turn.
Sabotage HIM, so he can’t sabotage YOU.
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